Relatives and Neighbors
Beyond the limited circle of family the next social sphere which is sufficiently wide is that of kinship and blood relationship. Those who are one’s kith and kin through relationship with common parents or common brothers and sisters or relations through in-laws, Islam wants them all to be mutually affectionate, cooperative and helpful. In many places in the Qur’an good treatment of the Zawil Qurba (near relatives) is enjoined. In the traditions of the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) good treatment of one’s (Silat Al-Rahm) has been emphasized and counted among the highest virtues.
A person who cold-shoulders his relatives or treats them an indifferent manner is looked down upon by Islam with great disfavor. But this does not mean that it is an Islamic virtue to be partial or unduly lenient toward one’s relatives as may result in injustice, is repugnant to Islam which condemns it as an act of Jahiliyyah (ignorance). Similarly, it is utterly un-Islamic for a government official or public trustee to support his at public expense or to be partial to his kith and kin in his official divisions: his would actually be a sinful act. Fair treatment of one’s as enjoined by Islam, should be at one’s own expenses and within the limits of justice and fair play.
Next to relations come the neighbors. The Qur’an has divided them into three categories:
A neighbor who is also a relative; an alien neighbor; and a casual or temporary neighbor with whom one had occasion to live or travel for some time. All of them are de- serving of fellow- feeling, affection, courtesy and fair treatment. The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) has said:
Ayesha and Ibn Omar reported from the Messenger of Allah who said; Gabriel did not stop to advice me about neighbors till I thought that he would soon make him an heir. - (Agreed upon)
In another tradition the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
Abu Hureira reported from the Messenger of Allah who said: “By Allah he does not believe, by Allah he does not believe, by Allah he does not believe”. The companions asked who is he O Prophet of Allah? The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “One whose neighbor is not immune against his mischief”.
Again, he (peace be upon him) said: that a person who enjoys a full meal while his neighbor is starving really possesses no faith in Islam. The Prophet was once informed of a woman who used to offer prayers regularly and keep fasts very often and gives alms frequently, but her neighbors were sick of her abusive tongue. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said that woman deserved only the fire of hell. He was also told of another woman who did not possess these virtues but did not trouble her neighbors either, and the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that she will be rewarded with paradise.
The complete saying goes as follows:
Abu Hurairah reported that a man asked: O Messenger of Allah! Such and such a woman is reputed for such prayer, and fasting and alms- giving, but she offends her neighbors with her tongue. He said: She will go to Hell. He inquired: O Messenger of Allah! Such and such a woman is reputed less for her fasting, alms- giving and prayer but she gives alms of the remainders of curds and she does not offend her neighbors by her tongue. He said: She will go to Paradise. (Narrated by Ahmed and Bayhaqi)
The Prophet (peace be upon him) has laid so much emphasis on this virtue that he has advised that whenever a Muslim brings fruits for his children he should either send some to his neighbors as a gift or at least not throw the peelings outside the door so that the neighbors may not have a feeling of deprivation.
The complete Hadith reads as follows:
Amr Ibn Shueib who reproved from his father who re- proved from his grandfather that the Messenger of Allah said narrated it: “Do you know what the duties of a neighbor are?” Help him if he seeks your help, give him succor if he seeks your succor, give him loan if he seeks you loan, give him relief if he is needy, nurse him if he falls ill, follow his bier if he dies, cheer him if he meets any good, sympathize with him if any calamity befalls him, raise not your building higher so as to obstruct his air without his permission, harass him not, give him when you purchase a fruit, if you do not do it, take it secretly; and let not your children take it out to excite thereby the anger of his children.
On one occasion the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that a man is really good if his neighbors regard him as such and he is bad if they consider him so. The complete Hadith goes as follows:
Ibn Mas’ud reported that a man asked the Holy Prophet: O Messenger of Allah! How can I know when I do good and when I do bad? The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: When you hear your neighbors say - you have done good, you have done good, and when you hear them say - you have done bad, you have done bad. (Narrated by Ibn Majah)
In brief, Islam requires all neighbors to be loving and cooperative with one another and share one another’s sorrows and happiness. It enjoins that they should establish social relations in which one could depend upon the other and regard his life, honor and property safe among his neighbors. A society in which two persons, separated only by a wall, remain unacquainted with one another for years and those living in the same area of a town have no interest or confidence in one another can never be called Islamic.
Next to these is the wider circle of relationship which covers the entire society. The broad principles on which Islam seeks to regulate the general gamut of our social life are the following:
To cooperate in acts of virtue and piety and not cooperate in acts of sin and injustice. To this point Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:
“Help ye one another in righteousness and piety, But help ye not one another in sin and rancor: Fear God: for God Is strict in punishment.” (Quran 5:2)
“One’s friendship and enmity should be for the pleasure of God only; whatever you (Muslim) give should be given because God likes it to be given, and whatever you (Muslims) withhold should be withheld because God does not like its gift. (Saying of the Holy Prophet)
“You (the Muslims) are the best community ever raised unto mankind; your duty is to command people to do good and prevent them from committing evil.”
Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:
“Ye are the best Of Peoples, evolved For mankind, Enjoining what is right, Forbidding what is wrong, And believing in God. If only the People of the Book had faith, it were best for them: among them are some who have faith, But most of them are perverted transgressors.” (Qur’an 3:110)
And the Prophet in various of his other teachings said: “Do not think evil of each other nor probe into each other’s affairs nor excite one against the other. Keep yourself away from mutual hatred and jealousy. Do not unnecessarily oppose each other. Always remain the slaves and subjects of Allah and live like brothers among yourselves.”
”Choose for others what you choose for yourself.” (Agreed upon)
These are some of the social values which Islam affirms and establishes and which it wants to see enshrined in the human society.