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Translator: Ali Adam
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ISBN: 1-903323-00-2

The Family in Islam

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The Family in Islam

The Family in Islam

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PartSeven : The Role of Institutions

Who is Responsible?

In the logic of Islam: ' Each of you is a guardian and each of you are responsible for his guardianship'.113 Each person has a role and responsibility without which society has no basis. Since the family is the nucleus of society and the criterion for its advancement or decline rests with it, then it must have a great role in this guardianship.

Girls of marriageable age, divorcees, widows, marital disputes, and for that matter orphans are allsubjects which require careful consideration so that wherever possible their problems may be solved. Thismay be achieved through facilitating the marriage of single persons or through reconciling those parties who have separated.By taking care of orphans and meeting their material and spiritual needs and giving them a good practical and intellectual education.

In materialistic societies, which includes, in this age, Islamic societies, these problems are widespread114 and individuals do not receive the attention they deserve.

Hence all those who have faith and hope in Allah and the day of resurrection, and who contemplate the reform of society should concern themselves with assisting women and orphans. The emissary of Allah has said: 'Have mercy on the weak, on women and on orphans’.

Is it not the case that any one of us could be susceptible to these problems? So if we do not have mercy on those less fortunate than ourselves we may not be shown mercy whenwe or our children are in a similar position and in need. In theQur'anic verse: ' Let those (disposing of an estate) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own if they had left a helpless family behind. Let them fear Allah and speak appropriately '.115 In the prophetic tradition: ' Have mercy upon those who are on the Earth and He who is in the heavens will have mercy upon you '116 The parents are responsible for themselves and the welfare of their family. Society, including intellectuals and capitalists, is also responsible for supporting its elements and families. The greater responsibility falls on the government and the state.

Marriage Agency

Given that the lives of Muslims are beset by difficulties from every quarter, the foremost of which are related to the family and marriage, and since returning to the equilibrium of nature and Islam takes time before the status quo is changed and matters return to their rightful place, then it is imperative, as has been previously mentioned, that marital foundations be set up to facilitate the marriages of single men and women. The sexual impulse and the impulse to start a family are present in both men and women and what stands in the way of this are the artificial problems like housing requirements, furniture, earning a living, mediation between the two parties, and expenses formedicaments and educating the children etc. Primary institutionsare needed for the root and basis of marriage and secondary ones for its branches and requirements. It is possible that committees for communal weddings be formed which could assist in the marriages of large numbers of youngsters and could provide a great deal of effort and financial support. 'The hand of Allah is with the group'117 as is in the prophetic tradition. There is also a great deal of reward due to whoever works towards the marriage of single Muslims. The prophetic traditions are full of special mentions of motherhood, childhood and the ill, as well as the fact that it is a requirement of Allah's words to 'help one another in righteousness and piety'118 , as well as that of nature and intellect.

Charitableorganisations are among the best solutions to numerous problems relating to the family and society and indeed in any area of life in thatthey :

a ). Stimulate the activities of individuals or similarorganisations because they tend to be pluralistic and encourage the activities of others.

b ). Can be a source of support for people as the reliance upon a group is greater than that of an individual.

c).The obstinate individual will find no room therein for megalomania.

d). Each individual will be heading in the right direction where there is consultation and a meeting of minds as the most intelligent person is he who combines his mind with those of others.

e). Wherever there is competition between a single group of individuals, each one strives to be 'bigger and better' so that things improve in quality and quantity in a way impossible for a single person working alone to achieve however perfect and sincere he was. The exception to this is only in the case of those 'restrained from error' by Allah.Hence we find that the prophet, himself impeccable, saying: ' Oh people consult me in matters'119 .and before that in theQur'anic verses: ' Consult them in affairs'120 , and '. . those who conduct their affairs by mutual consultation'121 , and '. . by mutual consent and consultation '122 , and so on.Therefore there is a need for charitableorganisations in all areas of life.

In Democratic States

It is true that in Democratic countries, charitableorganisations are able to work to their full potential while this is not the case in dictatorships or one-party states where they might be banned or expelled or otherwise limited as was experienced in Iraq under the Republicans from the late 1950's at the time of the coup of 'Abd -al-Karim Qasim until the present day. Similarly in Iran under thePahlevis .

Communal weddings in Democratic states are a simple matter. There, the government is an institution like other institutions but monitors other institutions in order to stop wrongdoing and to promote the advancement of the country and guard the public interest. The public interest is public in the full meaning of the word, where there are free political parties and proper elections, and not as dictators wish to interpret the public interest. They only see their own interests and hide behind dazzling rhetoric. Theorganisation which works towards setting up projects for communal weddings should take advantage of the possibilities open to it in a democratic country where suchorganisations are able to operate in relative freedom, in the light of multi-party politics, ease of law and media and simplicity of obtaining donations etc.

In dictatorships such as Iraq, such matters are not at all simple and extreme cautionmust be exercised .Probably it should not be communal as the regime bans or expels these kinds of groups. Infact the regime would probably exploit the reputation of these groups for propaganda purposes. This would be more detrimental to society than the benefit hoped for in marrying people. (There is no obedience to Allah through disobedience). In the case of dictatorial governments, people must cut them off and not cooperate with them even in the building of mosques.As Imam Al-Sadiq said: ' Do not build them even a single mosque'123 .

Facilitation and Substitution

In the words of the poet: 'Oh mysoulfulfil your grief for that which you feared is now a reality.' The laws of Islam became hidden under the Ottoman andQajarite rulers and before that under the rulers ofAndalucia , theMoghuls and Russia. Today Muslims live in an abyss of poverty, disease, ignorance,backwardness and chaos. How then in the context of the family do we raise the economic level to eradicate poverty? How do we raise health standards to combat illness? How do we free ourselves from ignorance? How can we raise the family's status in society so that it can leave chaos behind?

Individual action is not enough, just as the family is not able to solve its problems alone. There is then a need in the Islamic community fororganisations to provide facilities andorganisations to institute change.

The first will provide facilities for families by opening schools and hospitals and creating opportunities for employment.Otherwise the children of poor or low-income families will not be able to pay the high fees to enter the universities. Nor will they be able to pay the medical bills of those with chronic diseases. Many is the time that a person has sadly had to sell his house in order to pay to treat his heart disease, or those who do not have a house to sell have died of that or some other disease. At the same time, the rulers are embezzling billions in broad daylight, and anyone who speaks out faces prison, torture,accusations and execution.

The poor can barely find a morsel to eat and some families live out their years on nothing more than bread and tea, some of them not tasting meat or fruit for years on end. The instances of this are beyond number and cover all aspects of life.I have seen a scholar sell his personal library to cover the wedding expenses of his son. Facilitative committees are then to some degree useful according to the principle: 'The complexity of a task should not prevent attempting the achievable tasks.'124 The root of the problem lies in the substitution by the West and its agent rulers of the laws of Islam which used to guarantee our vitality and progress in life.'He calls you to what will let you live'.125 Therefore committees to institute change should be set up to bring back the vital laws of Islam. Otherwise our life will be nothing but strife and oppression, as in theQur'anic verse: 'But whosoever turns away from the remembrance of me shall find a straitened existence'.126 It is true that the man who says he does not believe in the law of gravity and throws himself from a high place will still find his bones broken.

Or the man who says he does not believe in Archimedes principle and throws himself in the sea without knowing how to swim, will still drink water until he dies. The same goes for the laws of society, economics, politics, education and the family as Islam confirms.

In so far as salvation lies in the return of these vital laws, then the remit of the committees for change should be to substitute, law by law, each of the false laws with the correct laws. In this way, Allah may look upon Muslims with compassion and rescue them from the backwardness and confusion they now experience.

Another way of supporting the policies of substitution and facilitation is to form groups to make use of free media and equal rights to implement the aforementioned two groups.Similarly help must be sought from philanthropists and charitable bodies to collect funds to meet people's needs as far as possible. All of this is possible if the concern and efforts of reformists and committed individuals is combinedafter which Allah may cause something to happen.

It is clearly possible to benefit from good Muslimbusinessmen in the facilitation and substitution operation. Traders were previously the jewel in the crown in the change that took place infavour of Islam and Muslims. It is capital, power, and knowledge that direct society towards the better or God forbid the worse.

It appears in the traditionsthat: ' Islam was built on three things; the wealth ofKhadijah , the protection of AbuTalib , and the morals of the Prophet'.It is these three that helped to foment the rise of Islam.

In another tradition from the Prophet: ' There are two groups in my nation which if righteous so will my nation be righteous and if corrupt so will my nation be corrupt. They are the scholars and the leaders.'

If money is not mentioned in this then it is probablydue to the fact that money is secondary to the two other things. As in when Imam Hussein was killed through the power ofZayad , the edict ofShureih , and the wealth of the publictreasury which had been directed by the powers that were and the edict towards evil and tyranny.

Muslim traders have the ability to raise the status ofIslam and deepen it and maintain it as a barrier against the vast currents over the ages. Islamic charitable institutionsbe they schools, mosques, shrines, or libraries mostly come from Muslim businessmen. So if they enter the picture, God willing, the change and substitution will become easier.

The aforementioned committees should also take part in planning the development operation. Businesses like agriculture, industry,commerce and heritage may also be able to create those committees in this way.Naturally all arms, drugs, and trade in other forbidden articles should be at all costs avoided for Allah is not obeyed through disobedience.

The Public Treasury

One of the benefits of Islam is the provision of a place for gathering moneys and then spending them on necessary matters. This placeis known as the public treasury. The policy of the public treasury is to gather money from the rich and to spend it on the poor. This is alluded to in the tradition of the prophet: ' I have been ordered to take from the rich among you and give to the poor among you'.127 There are four sources of funds for the public treasury: TheKhums , TheZakat , TheJizya , TheKharraj each of which are discussed in detail in the books of jurisprudence.

These sources canfulfil the needs of the people and the state making the need for raising public taxes obsolete except in very rare occasions like earthquakes, flooding, famine or drought and this under the supervision of the council of jurists and scholars. The secret to the sufficiency of these four taxes is that Islam places matters in the hands of the people while the responsibility of the state is the supervision and direction of the finances through a small number ofspecialised officials. This is dealt with ingreater detail in other books on the subject. Use must be made of the great potentialenergies which should be rallied to productive work instead of wasting them in needless bureaucracy where they may be dispensed with. The treasury undertakes tofulfil the public's needs including the needs of those who wish to marry but are poor.

In the event of there being no public treasury as is the situation now in Islamic lands, then the principle of 'that which cannot be fullyrealised should not be completely neglected' must be put into effect through charitable bodies setting up funds to collect donations and distribute them according to the needs of the public including youngsters who wish to marry.

Conclusion

It is truly sad that ignorance, despotism, and selfishness motivate many Muslims both rulers and ruled to such an extent that some Muslims cannot find even a morsel of food or an abode or a wife and other basic needs. Meanwhile, theyare surrounded by the bounties of Allah - earth, sky, light, the riches of nature, and the finest principles known to humanity.But they have neglected the laws of Allah and have been rewarded with these problems and crises which have destroyed their religion and way of life.

What has become of Allah Almighty's words: 'are those who know equal to those who do notknow'128 ,or His words'. . do not take those outside your ranks into your intimacy: they will not fail to corrupt you. They only desire for you to suffer'.129 or His words: ' . and consult them in the affairs of moment . .'130 , or His words: ' . so that (wealth) does not merely circulate amongst a rich few.131 and so many other verses and traditions? So that now the Muslim stands between two points; 'bemoaning the state of his religion and his way oflife'132 . Whereas ImamKashif Al-Ghata when he visited Iran said in the prologue to his book 'I did not see one man or woman either weeping or complaining' (meaning here unnatural weeping or complaining)'. Similarly I do not recall any of that either in Iraq before the second world war where Muslims were not yet subject to Eastern and Western laws.

Today though after having chosen for themselves to be led by the Western agenda and have become a confirmation of Allah's words: 'But whosoever turns away from the remembrance of me shall find a straitened existence'133 Calamity has struck even the righteous among them according to Allah Almighty's words: ' . .and fear a trial which may not only affect the wrongdoers amongst you '. .134 I now offer some examples of the oppression and distress which have surrounded Afghanistan, Iraq and the Gulf. These are by way of example only for every Islamic landhas been struck by this plague.

A certain party in Afghanistan plants opium for export toneighbouring countries and with the proceeds buys weapons with which to kill the people of the country. Inthis there are at least five criminal acts:

1) Misuse of the blessings of Allah; good land thatshould be used for good things is used for evil things.

2) The exploitation of workers and means of production for bad ends instead of for righteous ends.

3) Wastage of wealth on tools of destruction,bloodletting and impoverishment instead of being used for building and construction and the needs of the people.

4) Causing pain to the people and theneighbouring countries that should be safe from the calamities of aneighbour falling into the trap of addiction and corruption.

5) Destruction of the country: the natural result of the aforementioned is the destruction of the country and the humiliation and impoverishment of the people. This though is only the natural result of the type of ignorance that we have mentioned and the abandonment of the laws of God.In theQur'anic verse: '. . and be not like those who have forgotten God and He made them forget their own souls . .'135 Then the West puts Saddam in place so he can embezzle more than 800 billion dollars worth of Muslim wealth and do with Iraq and itsneighbours such murder,terrorising , imprisonment, torture, war, famine, torment, and economic destruction as has not been witnessed in the whole of history.136 The crimes of the Mongols, the Tartars and theHajaj pale into insignificance compared to the crimes of Saddam and his party. The West then makes the Iraqi regime into a tool forterrorising and corrupting the Gulfstates and their otherneighbours so that they ask for military bases on their soil and buy from the West billions of dollars of arms137 rather than serving the needs of the people and improving the lifestyle of the country. In this way the Islamic community is in the worst possible state of oppression and distress.138

There is as we previously said no cure to this other than through a generalawareness which is the prelude towards a return to the laws of Islam. For Islam is what will rescue humanity as that Muslim who went to conquer Persia said whenRustum asked him 'What do you want' He said ' We have come to bring the people from obeying other people to obeying Allah and to rescue humanity from the narrowness of the earth to its wideness.

PartEight : Marriage and Sex Etiquette

The following are some of the teachings ofRasulollah (S) and hisMa'soom Ahl-ul-Bayt (AS) concerning the etiquette of the Wedding Night as well as the ‘timing’ of sexual intercourse between the husband and wife. Theyare reproduced here for their immense importance on the health of the child and the mother. The first section below deals with the etiquette of marriage and the wedding night (Zafaaf ).

The time of performing the marriage contract - the AQD ImamJa'ffar al-Saadiq (AS) said: “Do not perform the marriage contract – the AQD – when the moon is going through the scorpion phase, for if you do that, it will not be a happy marriage.”

In another report from al-Imam al-Saadiq (AS): “Do not perform the marriage contract – the AQD – in direct sunlight, for this would lead to the miscarriage of the child.”

Etiquette ofThe Wedding Night

Itis reported thatRasulollah (S) said to Imam Ali (AS) “After the bride enters your room and sits down, take off her shoes and wash her feet and pour the water (from this washing) to the furthest point of your house. For if you do that, Allah will drive away seventy kinds of poverty from your house, and He will enter into your house seventy types of riches, and seventy kinds of blessings, and He will descend seventy kinds of mercy upon you, which will hover over your bride’s head until every corner of your house is filled with blessings. And in doing so the bride shall be immune from mental illness and leprosy as long as she is in that house.”

It is reported in thehadith of theAhl-ul-Bayt that it isMustahab and desirable for thenewly wed couple to pray twoRak’ah of prayer and after the prayer the groom should praise Allah and say theSalawaat of Muhammad andAal -e Muhammad and say:Allahummar-Zuqni Ulfaha wa Wuddaha wa Ridhaha be;wa-Ardhini beha ,Wajma 'baynana be-Ahsani Ejtimaa 'wa Aysari E'tilaaf ,fa Innaka Tuhibb-ul-Halal wa Takrah-ul-Haram . {{{O Allah! Give me her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her,And bring us together in the best form of a union and in the best of harmony, Surely You like theHalal and dislike theHaram . }}}

ImamSaadiq (AS) said to some of his companions:

“When your bride enters your room both turn to theQiblah and say:Allahumma beAmanatika Akhathtuha wa beKalimaatika Estahlaltuha ,Fa inQadhayta LiMinha Waladan ,faj'alhu Mubarakan Taqiyyan minShi'ati Al-e Muhammad (sal-lal-lahu alayhi wa alihi wa sallam )Walaa taj-'al Lish-Shaytani fihi Shirkan walaa Nasiba .

‘O Allah with Your trust I have accepted her, and with Your words I have made herHalaal to myself, so if You decree for me a child from her, make the child blessed and pious, and follower of theAhl-ul-Bayt (AS), and do not allow for theShaytaan to have any share or part in the child.’”And if the groom wanted to make love with his bride; he should first read the followingDu’a :

Allahummar-Zuqni Waladan ,waj-‘alhu Taqeyyan Zakeyyan ;Laysa Fi Khalqihi Zeyaadatan wa laNuqsaan ,Waj-‘al Aaqibatahu ila al-Khayr ” {{O Allah! Giveme a child who is pious and pure in whose creation there is nothing missing or overgrown.And make their fate and destiny good and prosperous.}}}At the moment of love making one should sayBismillah al-Rahmaan al-Raheem .

In ahadith from al-Imam al-Saadiq (AS): “Do not arrange for the wedding night to coincide with the moon going through the scorpion phase, for would not lead to a happy marriage.”During the first week of marriage . . Itis reported thatRasulollah (S) said to Imam Ali (AS) “Prevent the bride from eating four things in her first week of marriage:

1. Dairy products

2. Vinegar

3. Coriander

4. Sour apple

Imam Ali (AS) asked for the reason for this,Rasulollah (S) replied: “Since these four (could) make the womb cool andbarren, . .” For if she menstruates after consuming vinegar she will never be entirely clean (from her menstruation), [i.e. she will continue to experience minor bleeding outside her normal monthly period.]And coriander will intensify the bleeding of her menstruation inside her, and exacerbate her labor if she were to give birth.

And the sour apple would stop her menstruation bleeding which would be an illness for her . .”

Designer Babies . Etiquette and Timing of LovemakingThere is very important advice thatRasulollah (S) has given to Imam Ali (AS), which has significant outcomes, and this is given below in full.

As can be seen from the followinghadith , the date and time of the intercourse and therefore conception has a direct and defining impact on the character of the child conceived.

(A) Dates and times when lovemaking isMakruh (undesirable)

“. . 1. Do not have intercourse with your wife on the First, Middle, and Last day of the (lunar) month, for it will hasten mental illness and leprosy for her and her child.

2. Do not have intercourse with your wife in theafter noon , for if a childwere conceived at that time, s/he would be cross-eyed, and theShaytaan is pleased when a human is cross-eyed.

3. Do not speak while lovemaking, for if a childwere conceived , he would not be immune from being dumb.

4. One should not look into his wife’s vagina for this brings about blindness (in the child).

5. Do not make love with your wife with the desire of and lust for another woman (in your mind), for I fear that if a male child were conceived at that moment he would beMukhannath (one who desires other men to have sex with him), effeminate, and stupid.

6. One who is in the status ofJunub in bed with wife should not read the Qur’an forI fear that fire might descend upon them and burn them.

7. Do not make love unless each of you has a piece of cloth to clean yourselveswith . For if you use the same cloth, enmity would befall between you and this brings about separation and divorce.

8. Do not have intercourse with your wife standing up, for this is the conduct of the donkey, and if a childwere conceived (in that state) s/he would urinate in bed, just as the donkey urinates everywhere.

9. Do not make love with your wife on the eve ofEid-ul-Fitr , for if a childwere conceived as a result, that child would not be but evildoer.

10. Do not make love with your wife on the eve ofEid-ul-Adhha (Eid -e-Qurban ), for if a childwere conceived as a result, that child would have either six fingers or four.

11. Do not make love with your wife under a fruit-bearing tree, for if a childwere conceived as a result, s/he would be torturer, or a murderer or a spy (for an oppressive government against theMu’minin .)

12. Do not make love with your wife under direct sunshine, unless you set up a screen to cover you up, for if a childwere conceived as a result, s/he will continue to live in poverty until s/he dies.

13. Do not make love with your wife between theAdhaan and theIqamah , for if a childwere conceived as a result, s/he would be eager to shed blood.

14. If your wife were pregnant, do not make love with her unless you haveWudhu , otherwise the child would be blind-hearted and stingy.

15. Do not make love with your wife on the eve of mid-Sha’baan , for if a childwere conceived as a result, the child would be disfigured with large spots on his face.

16. Do not make love with your wife if there were two days left to the (lunar) month, for if a child were conceived as a result, s/he would becAshshaar (inspector/collector of tax (which is illegal from the Islamic point of view)), or an assistant to the oppressor, and many people would perish at their hands.

17. Do not make love with your wife on the roof top of a building, for if a childwere conceived as a result, s/he would be hypocrite, show-off, and commitBid’ah .

18. If you have travelled, do not make love with your wife on that night, for if a child were conceived as a result, s/he would give his/her money in a false way, [thenRasulollah (S) recited].. Verily the spendthrifts are the brothers of theSatans ...(17:27).

19. Do not make love with your wife if you are on a journey of three days and nights, for if a childwere conceived as a result, s/he would be helper and assistant to ever oppressor.

(B) Dates and times when lovemaking isMustahab (desirable)

1. O Ali! You are highly encouraged to make love on the eve of Monday, for if a childwere conceived , s/he would be amemoriser (Hafiz) of the Book of Allah, and pleased with whatever Allah has bestowed upon him/her.

2. If you make love with your wife on the eve of Tuesday and a child were conceived, s/he would be bestowed the Martyrdom, after the declaration of “There is no god but Allah, Muhammad isRasulollah ”, and Allah would not punish him with the polytheists. Her/his mouth would smell pleasant, s/he would be kind-hearted, generous and freehanded, her/his tongue would be pure from backbite, lie, and accusation.

3. If you make love with your wife on the eve of Thursday and a childwere conceived , s/he would be one of the rulers, or one of the scholars.

4. If you make love with your wife on Thursday when the sun passes the middle of the sky (after noon), and a child were conceived, s/he would be less prone to the temptations of theShaytaan . S/he would be intelligent and Allah Exalted and Praised is He would bestow upon her/him health and safety in theDeen and the material life.

5. And if you make love to your wife on the eve of Friday, and there were a child conceived, s/he would be an eloquent lecturer / preacher.

6. And if you make love to your wife on Friday afternoon, and there were a child conceived, s/he would be a renowned scholar.

7. And if you make love to your wife on the eve of Friday, after the ‘Eshaa ’ and there were a child conceived, it is hoped thatInSha’Allah s/he would be one of the ABDAAL (i.e. those pious individuals that the earth is never without one, if one of them dies another would replace him.)

8. Do not make love to your wife during the first hour of the night, for if there were a child conceived, itis feared that s/he would be a sorcerer, swindler who prefers this world to the hereafter.

Remember and keep this advice from me, just as I have remembered and kept it from my brotherJibra’il .”

Otherhadith on when/where lovemaking isMakruh

ImamJa’ffar al-Saadiq (AS) said “Do not have sexual intercourse on the first, middle, and the last day of the (lunar) month, for if one does that he should expect the miscarriage of the child, and if not, it is feared that the child would be mad. Do you not see that the mad person mostly suffers from fits on the first, middle, and last day of the (lunar) month?”

ImamJa’ffar al-Saadiq (AS) alsosaid “Do not have sexual intercourse on the eve of Wednesday.” In another narration from al-Imam al-Saadiq (AS): “Do not make love with your wife, if there is a child in the house who can see you or hear you. For if you do that, that child would be adulterous, and so too the child that is then conceived (as a result of that lovemaking).”

Rasulollah (S)is reported as saying:

“If one makes love with his wife, and there is someone in the house that can hear their voice or their breathing, the child that is conceived would not be pious, but s/he would adulterous.”Rasulollah (S)is reported as saying:

“If one has sexual intercourse with his wife while she is going through her monthly menstruation period, and a child is conceived who happens to have leprosy, he should blame none other than himself.”Someone asked Imam Muhammad al-Baaqir (AS) is there any time that isMakruh to have sexual intercourse even though it isHalaal ? The Imam replied:

“Yes. (Theseare: )

1. The duration fromFajr (break of dawn) to sunrise,

2. The duration from sunset to Maghreb (the disappearance of twilight),

3. The day in which the sunis eclipsed ,

4. The night in which the moonis eclipsed ,

5. The day or night in which there is the black wind, the red wind, or the yellow wind,

6. The day or night in which earthquake occurs.”

ImamSaadiq (AS) also said:

“Do not have sexual intercourse on board a boat, and do not have sexual intercourse whilst facing theQiblah or with your back to it.”

Sexual Satisfaction

Itis reported from Imam al-Saadiq (AS): “One of you may have sex with his wife and satisfy his desires, (but without her reaching the climax of sexual excitement and satisfaction). (This could leave her in a state that) if she comes across even aslave she would cling to him (to satisfy her sexual need). Therefore if you were to make love with your wife, make sure there is mutual foreplay, for it is better and more pleasant for this matter (lovemaking).” Notes:

1. In Islamic terminology a ‘day’ ends with the sunset and at the sametime the following ‘day’ begins. As opposed to the system that has currently become known and dominant where a ‘day’ starts at 00:00, i.e. midnight. So underthis current system a ‘day’ consists of a dark part –from midnight 00:00 to sunrise, the daylight part – from sunrise to sunset, and the second dark part from sunset to midnight 00:00.

In the Islamicterminology a ‘day’ consists of two parts – the dark part and daylight part. The ‘day’ starts with the dark part – eve or night– which is from Maghreb toFajr , and the daylight part, which is fromFajr to Maghreb.So the Eve of Friday starts when the sun sets on Thursday. In otherwords Thursday ends when the sun sets, while at the same time Friday begins, starting with its eve.

2. In the abovehadith and quotations when the monthis referred to, it is meant the lunar month in the Islamic calendar – Muharram, Safar, Rajab,Ramadahn , etc. and not in any other calendar such as the Gregorian.

Reference

Hadith presented here are mainly taken from the book “Makarem al-Akhlaq ”.