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THE RIGHTS OF CHILDREN

229- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

يا عَلِيُّ لَعَنَ اللّه والِدَينِ حَمَلا وَلَدَهُمـا عَلى عُقُوقِهِما

وسائل الشيعة/21/290

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] told Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.]:“O' Ali! Allah has cursed the parents who would cause their child to be disobedient of them by cursing them.”

Wasa'il-ush Shiah, vol. 21, p. 290

230- قالَ الإمامُ اَميرُالمُؤمِنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

لا تَجعَلَنَّ اَكثَرَ شُغلِكَ بِاَهلِكَ وَ وَلَدِكَ فَاِن يَكُن اَهلُكَ وَ وَلَدُكَ اَولياءَ الله فَاِنَّ اللّه لا يُضيعُ اَولِياءَهُ وَ اِن يَكُونُوا اَعداءَ الله فَما هَمُّكَ وَ شُغْلُكَ بِاَعداءِ الله؟

نهج البلاغة/536/352

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.] said to one of his followers:“Do not devote most of your activity to your wife and your (grown up) children, because if your wife and children are lovers of Allah, then He will not leave His lovers uncared for, and if they be enemies of Allah, then why should you worry and keep yourself busy about the enemies of Allah.”

(There are two opposite extremes that can be taken by men in regards to providing for their families. One is the negligence of his responsibility to them and the other, which is addressed here, is the excessive compiling of wealth for them. Either of these two extremes are advised against).

Nahjul-Balagha, p. 536, saying No. 352

231- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

بادِرُوا أَولادَكُم بِالحَدِيثِ، قَبلَ أَنْ يَسبِقَكُم إِلَيهِمُ المُرجِئَةُ

الكافي/6/47

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“Take action in teaching traditions (of Ahlul-Bayt) to your children before the corrupted persons precede in corrupting them.”

Al-Kafi, vol. 6, p. 47

232- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

بِرُّ الرَّجُلِ بِوَلَدِهِ بِرُّهُ بِوالِدَيهِ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/483

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“Benediction of a man to his child is his benediction to his parents.”

Man La YahduruhuI Faqih, vol. 3, p. 483

233- قالَ الإمامُ أَميرُ المُؤمنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

وَ حَقُّ الوَلَدِ عَلَى الوالِدِ أَنْ يُحَسِّنَ اِسْمَهُ وَ يُحَسِّنَ أَدَبَهُ وَ يُعَلِّمَهُ القُرآنَ

نهج البلاغة/546 الكلمات القصار/399

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.] said:“The right of a child upon his father is that he should give him a nice appellation, train him well and teach him the Qur'an (with its rules).”

Nahjul Balagha, Saying 399

234- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

عَلِّمُوا اَولادَكُم اَلسَّباحَةَ وَ الرِّمايَةَ

الكافي/6/47

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Have your children to learn swimming and and shooting.”

AI-Kafi, vol. 6, p. 47

235- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

عَلِّمُوا اَولادَكُم اَلصَّـلاة إِذا بَلَغُوا سَبْعاً، وَاضرِبُوهُـم عليه إِذا بَلَغُوا عَشرًا، وَ فَرِّقُوا بَينَهُم فِي المَضاجِعِ

كنز العُمّال/16/45330

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“When your children are grown up to seven years, teach them the prayers, and when they are ten years old, seriously admonish them for it (in order that they establish prayers); and separate their sleeping beds from each other.”

Kanz-ul-Ummal, vol. 16, No. 45330

236- قالَ الإمامُ السَّجّادُ عليه السلام :

وَ أمّـا حَقُّ وَلَدِكَ فَأَنْ تَعلَمَ أَنَّهُ مِنكَ وَ مُضافٌ إِلَيكَ فِي عاجِلِ الدّنيا بِخَيـرِهِ وَ شَرِّهِ وَ أَنَّـكَ مَسـؤُولٌ عَمّـا وَلَّيتَهُ مِن حُسـنِ الأدَبِ والدَّلالَة عَلى رَبِّهِ عَزَّوَجَلَّ وَالمَعُونَة لَهُ عَلى طاعَتِـهِ فَاعمَلْ فِي اَمرِهِ عَمَلَ مَن يَعلَمُ أَنَّهُ مُثابٌ عَلَى الإِحسانِ اِلَيـهِ مُعاقَبٌ عَلَى الإِساءَة اِلَيهِ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/2/622

Imam Sajjad, the fourth Imam, [a.s.] said:“The right of your child is that you know that he has emerged from you and in this world, his right and wrong are attributed to you. You are responsible of his fine teaching and training, guiding him to his Lord, Almighty and Glorious, and, assisting him to obey Him. Therefore, be sure that if you do a favour to your child, you will obtain it; and if you act viciously against him, it will come back to you, too.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 2, p. 622

236- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اَكرِمُوا اَولادَكُم وَ اَحسِنُوا آدابَهُم يُغْفَرْ لَكُمْ

بحار الأنوار/104/95

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said: Honour your children and train them well, you will be forgiven by Him.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 104, p. 95

SUCKLING

237- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

بَلى لِلمَرأَة مَا بَينَ حَملِها إِلى وَضعِها إِلى قِطامِها مِنَ الأجرِ كَالمُرابِطِ في سَبيل الله فَاِن هَلَكَت فيما بَينَ ذلِكَ كانَ لَها مِثلُ مَنزِلَة الشَّهيدِ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/ 561

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Yes, the reward of a woman during her pregnancy until childbirth, and unto when she weans the child, is like that of a stationed (soldier guarding the Muslims' borders against the attack of pagan enemies) for the sake of Allah. So, if she dies during that, she will have the rank of a martyr.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 561

238- قالَ الإمامُ أَميرُ المُؤمنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

ما مِن لَبَنٍ رَضِعَ بِهِ الصَّبِيُّ اَعظَمُ بَرَكَةً عليه مِن لَبَنِ اُمَّهِ

وسائل الشيعة/21/452

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.] said:“No milk is greater in prosperity than the mother's milk for the baby to suck from.”

Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah vol. 21, p. 452

239- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

إذا حَمَلَتِ المَرة كانَت بِمَنزِلَة الصّائِمِ القائِمِ المُجاهِدِ بِنَفسِهِ وَ مالِهِ فِي سَبيلِ الله فَإذا وَضَعَت كانَ لَها مِنَ الأجرِ ما لا تَدْري ماهُوَ لِعِظَمِه فَإذا اَرضَعَتْ كانَ لَها بِكُلِّ مَصَّةٍ كَعِدْلِ عِتقِ مُحَرَّرٍ مِن وُلدِ اِسماعِيلَ، فَإذا فَرَغَتْ مِن رِضَاعِهِ ضَرَبَ مَلَكٌ عَلى جَنبِها وَ قالَ، اِستَأْنِفِي العَمَلَ فَقَد غُفِرَلَكِ

بحار الأنوار/104/106

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“When a woman conceives with child she will be as a warrior who fasts during the day and keeps vigil at nights praying, and strives with his soul and wealth on the way of Allah. Then, when she delivers, there will be for her such a great reward with Allah that she does not know how magnificent it is. Thereafter, when she suckles (the child), she will have as much reward as freeing a child from Ismail's descendants for every suck. And, when she brings suckling the child to an end, an angel beside her tells her to begin the action again for she has surely been forgiven.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 104, p. 106

239- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم: لَيسَ لِلصَبيِّ لَبَنٌ خَيرٌ مِن لَبَنِ اُمِّهِ

مستدرك الوسائل باب 48

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“There is no milk for a baby better than the milk of its mother.”

Mustadrak-ul-Wasa'il, section 48

MARRIAGE, A GREAT WORSHIP

240- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

لَرَكعَتانِ يُصَلِّيهِما مُتَزَّوِجٌ اَفضَـلُ مِن رَجُلٍ عَزَبٍ يَقُومُ لَيلَـهُ وَ يَصُومُ نَهارَهُ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/384

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said: “A two rak'at prayer that a married person establishes is worthier than when a bachelor keeps up prayers at nights and fasts during the days.

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 384

241- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اَلمُتَزَوِّجُ النّائِمُ اَفضَلُ عِندَالله مِنَ الصّائِمِ القائِمِ العَزَبِ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The sleep of a married person is better with Allah than an unmarried one who fasts during the day and keeps vigil at night, establishing prayers.”

Bihar ul Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

242- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

خِيارُ أُمَّتِي اَلْمُتَأَهِّلُونَ وَ شِرارُ أُمَّتِي اَلْعُزّابُ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“(Mostly) the doers of good of my Ummah are the married ones, while the vicious of them are unmarried.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

243- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

جاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلى أَبي، فَقالَ عليه السلام لَهُ هَل لَكَ زَوجَةٌ قالَ: لا، قالَ لا أُحِبُّ أَنَّ لِيَ الدّنيا وَ مَا فِيها وَ أَنّي أَبيتُ لَيلَةً و لَيسَ لي زَوجَةٌ، قالَ: ثُمَّ قالَ إنَّ رَكعَتَينِ يُصَلِّيهِما رَجُلٌ مُتَزَوِّجٌ أَفْضَلُ مِن رَجُلٍ يَقُومُ لَيلَهُ وَ يَصُـومُ نَهارَهُ، أَعْزَبَ ثُمَّ أَعطاهُ أَبي سَبعَة دَنانِيرَ قالَ تَزَوَّج بِهذِهِ

بحار الأنوار/103/217

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“Once a man came to my father. He [a.s.] asked him whether he had a wife and he answered he had not. Then, my father said that he would not like to possess the world and what it includes but sleep one night without having a wife. Then he [a.s.] added that the two rak'at prayer established by a married man is worthier than that an unmarried man keeps vigil at night praying and fasts during the day. After that, he [a.s.] gave him seven golden coins (Dinar) and told him to marry with that.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 217

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR MARRIAGE

244- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ اَحرَزَ نِصفَ دينه ، وَ في حَدِيثٍ: فَليَتَّقِ اللّه فِي النِّصفِ الآخَرِ اَوِ الباقِي

الكافي/5/328

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The person who marries gains half of his Faith, then he must fear of Allah for the next remaining half.”

Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 328

245- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اَكثَرُ اَهلِ النّارِ اَلعُزّابُ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/384

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Most of the people of Hell will be the unmarried (irrespective of male or female).”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 384

246- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

رِذالُ مَوتاكُم اَلعُزّابُ

التهذيب/7/239

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The most depraved of your dead are the unmarried.”

Al-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 239

247- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن سَرَّهُ أَنْ يَلقَى اللّهَ طاهِرًا مُطَهَّرًا فَلْيَلْقَهُ بِزَوجَةٍ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/385

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who wishes to be cleaned and purified when he meets Allah should marry and have a spouse.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 385

248- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

تَزَوَّج وَ إلاّ فَأَنتَ مِن رُهبانِ النَّصارى (و فِي رِوايَةٍ) وَ إلاّ فَأَنتَ مِن اِخوانِ الشَّياطينِ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Marry, otherwise you will be (counted) among the Christian monks or the brothers of satan.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

MARRIAGE IS THE KEY TO DIVINE MERCY AND A GOOD TEMPER

249- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

يُفتَحُ اَبوابُ السَّماءِ بِالرَّحمَة فِي اَربَعَةِ مَواضِعَ، عِندَ نزُولِ المَطرِ وَ عِندَ نَظرِ الوَلَدِ فِي وَجهِ الوالِدَينِ وَ عِندَ فَتحِ بابِ الكَعبَةِ وَ عِندَ النِّكاحِ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The doors of Heaven to mercy will be opened in four situations: when it rains, when a child looks kindly at his parent's face, when the door of the Ka'bah is opened, and when marriage (occurs).”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

250- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

زَوِّجُوا أياماكُمْ فَاِنَّ اللّهَ يُحَسّـِنُ لَهُمْ فِي اَخلاقِهِمْ وَ يُوَسِّعُ لَهُمْ فِي اَرزاقِهِمْ وَ يَزِيدُهُم فِي مُرُوّاتِهِمْ

بحار الأنوار/103/222

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Join your children in marriage (boys or girls) because, thereby, Allah renders their tempers good, adds to their sustenance, and increases their sense of honour.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 222

251- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

تَزَوَّجُوا وَ زَوِّجُوا ألا فَمِن حَظِّ اِمرِئٍ مُسلِمٍ اِنفاقُ قِيمَةِ اَيِّمَةٍ

الكافي/5/328

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Get married and give your daughters in marriage, because it is from the good fortune of any Muslim man that he gives his (matured) daughter (or sister) in marriage.”

Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 328

252- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

وَ ما مِنْ شيْءٍ اَحَبَّ إِلى الله عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِن بَيتٍ يُعمَرُ فِي الإِسلامِ بِالنِّكاحِ، وَ ما مِنْ شيْءٍ اَبغَضُ إِلى الله عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِن بَيتٍ يَخْرَبُ فِي الإِسلامِ بالفُرقَةِ يَعنِي الطَّلاقَ

الكافي/5/328

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“There is nothing to Allah, Almighty and Glorious, more beloved than the house which is developed in Islam by marriage; and there is nothing to Allah, Almighty and Glorious, more abhorent than the house which is ruined in Islam by separation, viz, divorce.”

Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 328

HASTEN TO MARRY

253- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اِنَّ الأبكارَ بِمَنزِلَة الثَّمَـرِ عَلَى الشَّجَـرِ إذا اَدرَكَ ثَمَـرُهُ فَلَـمْ يُجتَنَ اَفسَدَتهُ الشَّمسُ وَ نَثَرَتْـهُ الرِّياحُ وَ كَذلِكَ الاَبكارُ إذا اَدرَكْنَ ما يُدرِكُ النّـِساءُ فَلَيسَ لَهُـنَّ دَواءٌ اِلاَّ البُعُولَةُ و إلاّ لَـمْ يُؤمَنْ عليهنَّ الفَسادُ لأِ َنَّهُنَّ بَشَرٌ

الكافي/5/337

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Verily, maidens are like fruits of a tree; when its fruits ripen and are not reaped, sunshine ruins them and the wind scatters them. Maidens are in the same situation. When they comprehend what the women perceive, there is no remedy for them save a husband. If they are not given in marriage, they will not be secured from corruption, because they are human beings, too. (They have the same human instincts and temperament as others).”

Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 337

254- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

ما مِن شابٍّ تَزَوَّجَ فِي حَداثَة سِنِّهِ إلاّ عَجَّ شَيطانُهُ يا وَيلَهُ، يا وَيلَهُ عَصَمَ مِنِّي ثُلثَي دِينِهِ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Any young man who marries at the beginning of his youth, his devil moans and intensively regrets that he has protected two-third of his Faith from Satan.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

255- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

يا مَعشَرَ الشَّبابِ مَنِ استَطاعَ مِنكُم الباهَ فَليَتَزَوَّجْ فَاِنَّهُ اَغَضُّ لِلبَصَرِ وَاَحصَنُ لِلفَرْجِ

مستدرك وسائل الشيعة/14/153

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said: “O' young people! If one of you is capable of marrying, then do it, because it is good for your eyes (not to stare at women) and protects your privy part (to remain more pious).

Mustadrak Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah, vol.14, p.153

256- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

إِنَّهُ نَهى عَنِ التَّبَتُّلِ وَ نَهَى النِّساءَ أَنْ يَتَبَتَّلْنَ وَ يَقْطَعْنَ أَنْفُسَهُنَّ مِنَ الأَزواجِ

مستدرك وسائل الشيعة/14/248

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] forbade the life of celibacy, and prohibited women from living in chastity and allowing their selves to remain unmarried.”

Mustadrak Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah, vol.14, p. 248

INTERCESSION AND HELP IN LAWFUL MARRIAGE

257- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن عَمِلَ في تَزويجِ حَلالٍ حَتّى يَجمَعَ اللّه بَينَهُمـا زَوَّجَهُ اللّهُ مِنَ الحُورِ العِينِ وَ كانَ لَهُ بِكُلِّ خُطْوَةٍ خَطاها وَ كَلِمَةٍ تَكَلَّمَ بِها عِبادَةُ سَنَةٍ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet (p.h.u.h.) said:“He who struggles to join two Muslim believers in lawful marriage that they marry under the divine law, Allah will give him in marriage from the black-eyed houri (damsels in Heaven), and there will be for him the reward of one year of worshipping for every step he takes or word he speaks.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

258- قالَ الإمامُ أَميرُ المُؤمنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

أَفضَلُ الشَّفَاعاتِ أَنْ تَشفَـعَ بَينَ اِثْنَيْـنِ في نِكاحٍ حَتّى يَجمَـعَ اللّهُ بَينَهُما

التهذيب/7/415 و الكافي/5/331

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.] said: “The best mediations is it that you intercede between two persons for lawful marriage so that they both marry under the law of Allah.

AI-Tahthib, vol.7, p. 415 & Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 331

259- قالَ الإمامُ الكاظِمُ عليه السلام :

ثَلاثةٌ يَستَظِلُّونَ بِظِـلِّ عَرشِ الله يَومَ لاظِلَّ اِلاّظِلُّـهُ رَجُلٌ زَوَّجَ اَخاهُ المُسلِمَ اَو اَخدَمَهُ اَوْ كَتَمَ لَهُ سِرًّا

بحار الأنوار/74/356

Imam al-Kadhim [a.s.] said: On the Judgement Day, the Day in which there is no shade except the shade of Allah's Mercy, three varieties will avail of the shade of Allah's Throne: the man who caused the marriage of his Muslim brother, or he who served him, or the one who concealed his secrets for his sake.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 74, p. 356

260- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

مَن زَوَّجَ عَزَباً كانَ مِمَّن يَنظُرُ اللّهُ اِلَيهِ يَومَ القِيامَةِ

التهذيب/7/404

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“He who unites an unmarried person in wedlock will be of those on whom Allah will look at (mercifully) on the Resurrection Day.”

AI-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 404

261- قالَ الإمامُ الكاظِمُ عليه السلام :

اِنَّ لِلّهِ ظِلاًّ تَحتَ يَدِهِ يَومَ القِيامَة لا يَستَظِلُّ تَحتَهُ إلاّ نَبِيّ اَو وَصِيّ نَبِيٍّ اَو مُؤْمِنٌ اَعتَقَ عَبـدًا مُؤمِنـًا اَو مُؤْمِنٌ قَضا مَغْـرَمَ مُؤْمِنٍ اَو مُؤمِنٌ كَفَّ اَيْمَةَ مُؤْمِنٍ

بحار الأنوار/74/356

Imam al-Kadhim [a.s.] said:“On the Reckoning Day, Allah has a special shade of Mercy to spread under which none will reside except the prophets, or their vicegerents, or a believer who frees a believing slave, or a believer who pays the debt of another believing one, or a believer who unites in wedlock a believing unmarried one.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 74, p. 356

262- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

وَ مَن عَمِلَ فِي تَزوِيجٍ بَينَ مُؤْمِنينِ حَتّى يَجمَـعَ بَينَهُما زَوَّجَهُ اللّهُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ اَلْفَ اِمرَةٍ مِنَ الحُورِ العِينِ كُلَّ اِمرَأَةٍ فِي قَصرٍ مِن دُرٍّ وَ ياقُوتٍ

وسائل الشيعة/20/46

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who tries to join two Muslim believers in lawful marriage so that they marry under the divine law, Allah will join one thousand Houries (damsels of Heaven with black large eyes) in marriage with him each of whom will be in a castle from pearls and rubies.”

Wasa'il ush-Shi'ah, vol. 20, p. 46

INTERCESSION AND HELP IN LAWFUL MARRIAGE

257- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن عَمِلَ في تَزويجِ حَلالٍ حَتّى يَجمَعَ اللّه بَينَهُمـا زَوَّجَهُ اللّهُ مِنَ الحُورِ العِينِ وَ كانَ لَهُ بِكُلِّ خُطْوَةٍ خَطاها وَ كَلِمَةٍ تَكَلَّمَ بِها عِبادَةُ سَنَةٍ

بحار الأنوار/103/221

The Holy Prophet (p.h.u.h.) said:“He who struggles to join two Muslim believers in lawful marriage that they marry under the divine law, Allah will give him in marriage from the black-eyed houri (damsels in Heaven), and there will be for him the reward of one year of worshipping for every step he takes or word he speaks.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 221

258- قالَ الإمامُ أَميرُ المُؤمنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

أَفضَلُ الشَّفَاعاتِ أَنْ تَشفَـعَ بَينَ اِثْنَيْـنِ في نِكاحٍ حَتّى يَجمَـعَ اللّهُ بَينَهُما

التهذيب/7/415 و الكافي/5/331

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a.s.] said: “The best mediations is it that you intercede between two persons for lawful marriage so that they both marry under the law of Allah.

AI-Tahthib, vol.7, p. 415 & Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 331

259- قالَ الإمامُ الكاظِمُ عليه السلام :

ثَلاثةٌ يَستَظِلُّونَ بِظِـلِّ عَرشِ الله يَومَ لاظِلَّ اِلاّظِلُّـهُ رَجُلٌ زَوَّجَ اَخاهُ المُسلِمَ اَو اَخدَمَهُ اَوْ كَتَمَ لَهُ سِرًّا

بحار الأنوار/74/356

Imam al-Kadhim [a.s.] said: On the Judgement Day, the Day in which there is no shade except the shade of Allah's Mercy, three varieties will avail of the shade of Allah's Throne: the man who caused the marriage of his Muslim brother, or he who served him, or the one who concealed his secrets for his sake.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 74, p. 356

260- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

مَن زَوَّجَ عَزَباً كانَ مِمَّن يَنظُرُ اللّهُ اِلَيهِ يَومَ القِيامَةِ

التهذيب/7/404

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“He who unites an unmarried person in wedlock will be of those on whom Allah will look at (mercifully) on the Resurrection Day.”

AI-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 404

261- قالَ الإمامُ الكاظِمُ عليه السلام :

اِنَّ لِلّهِ ظِلاًّ تَحتَ يَدِهِ يَومَ القِيامَة لا يَستَظِلُّ تَحتَهُ إلاّ نَبِيّ اَو وَصِيّ نَبِيٍّ اَو مُؤْمِنٌ اَعتَقَ عَبـدًا مُؤمِنـًا اَو مُؤْمِنٌ قَضا مَغْـرَمَ مُؤْمِنٍ اَو مُؤمِنٌ كَفَّ اَيْمَةَ مُؤْمِنٍ

بحار الأنوار/74/356

Imam al-Kadhim [a.s.] said:“On the Reckoning Day, Allah has a special shade of Mercy to spread under which none will reside except the prophets, or their vicegerents, or a believer who frees a believing slave, or a believer who pays the debt of another believing one, or a believer who unites in wedlock a believing unmarried one.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 74, p. 356

262- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

وَ مَن عَمِلَ فِي تَزوِيجٍ بَينَ مُؤْمِنينِ حَتّى يَجمَـعَ بَينَهُما زَوَّجَهُ اللّهُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ اَلْفَ اِمرَةٍ مِنَ الحُورِ العِينِ كُلَّ اِمرَأَةٍ فِي قَصرٍ مِن دُرٍّ وَ ياقُوتٍ

وسائل الشيعة/20/46

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who tries to join two Muslim believers in lawful marriage so that they marry under the divine law, Allah will join one thousand Houries (damsels of Heaven with black large eyes) in marriage with him each of whom will be in a castle from pearls and rubies.”

Wasa'il ush-Shi'ah, vol. 20, p. 46

WIFE AND HER DOWER

263- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

شُؤمُ المَرأَةِ غَلاءُ مَهرِها وَ سُوءُ خُلْقِها

بحار الأنوار/58/321

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The bad omen of a woman is her expensive dower and her ill temper.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 58, p. 321

264- قالَ الإمامُ اَبُو عَبدِالله عليه السلام :

اَلسُّرّاقُ ثَلاثَةٌ: مانِعُ الزَّكوةِ وَ مُستَحِّلُ مُهُورِ النّـِساءِ وَ كَذلِـكَ مَنِ استَدانَ وَلَم يَنْوِ قَضاءَهُ

بحار الأنوار/96/12

Imam Abu 'Abdullah said:“ Thieves are of three divisions:

1- Those who hinder giving alms;

2- Those who consider the withholding of women's dower sum as lawful;

3- Those who take loans and have not decided to pay it back.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 96, p. 12

265- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ (ع ) :

اِنَّ مِن بَرِكَة المَرأَةِ قِلَّةَ مَهْرِها وَ مِن شُومِها كَثرَةَ مَهرِها

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/387

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“Verily, one of the blessings of a woman is the inexpensiveness of her dower, while one of her bad omens is the heaviness of her dower.”

Man La Yahdurulul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 387

266- قالَ الإمامُ اَمِيرُالمُؤمِنينَ عَلِيّ عليه السلام :

لا تُغالُوا بِمُهُورِ النِّساءِ فَتَكُونَ عَداوَةً

وسائل الشيعة/21/253

Imam Amir ul Mu'mineen [a.s.] said:“Do not make the women's dowers heavy, because it creates enmity.”

Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah, vol. 21, p. 253

267- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

اَقْذَرُ الذُّنُوبِ ثَلاثَةٌ: قَتلُ البَهِيمَةِ وَ حَبـسُ مَهْرِ المَـرأَةِ وَ مَنْـعُ الأجِيرِ اَجْرَهُ

بحار الأنوار/64/268

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“The worst sins are three:

Labouring animals as murder, restraining the dower of a woman, and withholding the wage of a worker.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 64, p. 268

DOWER: THE LESS THE BETTER

268- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اَعظَمُ النِّكاحِ بَرَكَةً اَيسَرُهُ مَؤُونَةً

كنز العُمّال/16/299

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The blessing of that marriage is greater that its expenditure is easier.”

Kanz-ul-'Ummal, vol. 16, p. 299

269- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

اَفضَلُ نِساءِ اُمَّتِي اَصبَحَهُنَّ وَجهًا وَ اَقَلَّهُنَّ مَهْرًا

بحار الأنوار/103/236

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“The excellent women of my Ummah are those that the more their faces are beautiful the less are their dowers.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 236

270- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

تَزَوَّجْ وَلَو بِخاتَمٍ مِنْ حَدِيدٍ

كنز العُمّال/16/321

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Marry even with an iron ring (as dower).”

Kanz-ul-'Ummal, vol. 16, p. 321

271- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن اَعطى فِي صَداقٍ مِلْأَ كَفِّهِ سَويقًا اَو تَمْرًا فَقَدِ اسْتَحَلَّ

كنز العُمّال/16/321

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who gives as much as a handful of grains or dates as a dowry (with the acceptance of the partner), surely his marriage is lawful and correct.”

Kanz-ul-'Ummal, vol. 16, p. 321

272- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

زَوَّجَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (ص) عَلِيًّا فاطِمَةَ (ع) عَلى دِرْعِ حَطَمِيَّةٍ تُساوي ثَلاثينَ دِرْهَما

وسائل الشيعة/21/251

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] gave Fatimah [a.s.] in marriage to Ali [a.s.] with (the dower of) an armor at the price of thirty Dirhams.”

Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah, vol. 21, p. 251

MARRIAGE WITH REGARD TO FAITH AND HONESTY

273- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

إذا جاءَكُـم مَن تَرضَـوْنَ خُلْقَهُ وَ دِينَـهُ فَزَّوِجُـوهُ، قالَ قُلتُ يا رَسُولَ الله وَ اِن كانَ دَنِيًّا فِي نَسَبِهِ، قالَ: إذا جاءكُم مَن تَرضَوْنَ خُلقَهُ وَ دِينَهُ فَزَوِّجُـوهُ اِنَّكُمْ إلاّ تَفعَلُـوهُ تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الأرضِ وَ فَسادٌ كَبيرٌ

التهذيب/7/394

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] with no regard to the class of the one's generation, emphasized and said:“When someone refers to you for marriage and you approve contently, his manner and his religion, then unite with him in wedlock. If you do not do that, you have caused a grand pest and decadence on the earth.”

AI-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 394

274- قالَ الإمامُ الجَوادُ عليه السلام :

مَـن خَطَـبَ اِلَيكُـم فَرَضِيتُـمْ دِينَـهُ وَ اَمانَتَـهُ (كائِنـًا مَن كانَ) فَزَوِّجُوهُ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/393

Imam al-Jawad [a.s.] wrote in a letter:“Whoever solicits you in marriage and you are convinced of his religion and

his honesty, then do unite with him in wedlock.”

AI-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 347

Man La Yahdhuruhul-Faqih, vol. 3, p. 393; AI-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 394

275- جاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلى الإمامِ الحُسَينِ عليه السلام فَقالَ :

إِنَّ لي اِبْنَةً فَمَن تَرى أَنْ اُزَوِّجَها لَهُ، قالَ: زَوِّجْها مِمَّن يَتَّقِ اللّهَ عَزَّوَجَلَّ فَاِنْ اَحَبَّها اَكْرَمَها وَ اِن اَبْغَضَها لَم يَظْلِمْها

المستطرف/2/218

Once a man told Imam Husayn [a.s.] that he had a daughter and asked whom he [a.s.] would advise him to give her to in marriage, and he said:“Give her in marriage to someone who (has Faith and) fears Allah, Almighty and Glorious, because he will love and respect her, and if he becomes angry with her, he will not hurt her.”

AI-Mustatraf, vol. 2, p. 218

276- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن زَوَّجَ كَرِيمَتَهُ مِن فاسِقٍ فَقَد قَطَعَ رَحِمَه

المحجة البيضاء/3/94

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who gives his daughter in marriage to an ungodly man has indeed broken off her connection with her kindred.”

AI-Muhajjat-ul-Bayda, vol. 3, p. 94

MAN'S INTENTION IN MARRIAGE

277- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ امرَأَةً لا يَتَزَوَّجُها إلاّ لِجَمالِها لَم يَرَ فِيها ما يُحِـبُّ وَ مَن تَزَوَّجَها لِمالِها لا يَتَزَوَّجُها إلاّ لَهُ وَ كَلَـهُ اللّهُ اِلَيهِ، فَعَلَيكُـمْ بِذاتِ الدِّينِ

التهذيب/7/399

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who marries a woman only for her beauty (regardless of her Faith), he will not see (gain) what he likes; and he who marries a woman only for her wealth, Allah will leave him with that wealth only. Therefore, it is to you that you look for a religious wife.”

Al-Tahthib, vol. 7, p.399

278- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ امرَأَةً يُرِيدُ مالَها اَلجَأَهُ اللّهُ إِلى ذلِكَ المالِ

الكافي/5/333

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“He who marries a woman for the hope of her wealth, Allah leaves him with only that wealth.”

AI-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 333

279- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ اِمرَأَةً لِمالِها وَكَلَـهُ اللّهُ اِلَيهِ وَ مَن تَزَوَّجَها لِجَمالِها رَآى فيها ما يَكرَهُ وَ مَن تَزوَّجَها لِدينِها جَمَعَ اللّهُ لَهُ ذلِكَ

التهذيب/7/399

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said: He who marries a woman for her wealth, Allah will leave him only with that; and he who marries a woman (only) for her beauty, he will see in her what he does not like; but he who marries a woman for her religion, Allah will gather those merits for him.”

AI-Tahthib, vol. 7, p. 399

280- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ اِمرَأَةً لِجَمالِها جَعَلَ اللّهُ جَمالَها وَبالاً عليه

وسائل الشيعة/20/53

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who marries a woman (only) for her beauty, Allah wiil assign the beauty of that woman as a harm and trouble for him.”

Wasa'il-ush Shi'ah, vol. 20, p. 53

281- قالَ الإمامُ السَّجّادُ عليه السلام :

مَن تَزَوَّجَ لِلّهِ عَزَّوَجَلَّ وَ لِصَلِة الرَّحِمِ تَوَّجَهُ اللّهُ بِتاجِ المُلْـكِ وَالكَرامَةِ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/385

Imam Sajjad [a.s.] said:“He who marries for the sake of Allah, Almighty and Glorious, and for the union of kindred, Allah will grant him the crown of glory and honour.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 385

282- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

لا تَنْكِحِ المَرأَةَ لِجَمالِها فَلَعَلَّ جَمالَها يُرْدِيها وَ لا لِمالِها فَلَعَلَّ مالَها يُطغيها وَانكحِ المَرأةَ لِدينِها

المحجة البيضاء/3/85

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Do not marry a woman only for her beauty since her beauty may cause her impiety; nor for her wealth because her wealth may cause her disobedience; but marry a religious woman for her Faith.”

Al-Muhajjat-ul-Bayda, vol. 3, p. 85

EARNING A LIVELIHOOD

283- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَلعُونٌ مَلعُونٌ مَن يُضَيِّـعُ مَن يَعُولُ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/168

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“He who is regardless of those whom he must feed, is cursed and again very much cursed.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 168

284- قالَ رَسُولُ الله صلی الله عليه و آله و سلم :

مَن صَبَـرَ عَلى خُلْـقِ امـرَأَةٍ سَيِّئَةِ الخُلْقِ وَاحتَسَبَ فِي ذلِكَ الأجرَ اَعطاهُ اللّهُ ثَوابَ الشّاكِرِينَ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/4/16

The Holy Prophet [p.b.u.h.] said:“Any man who is patient with the wife who is bad tempered, and seeks that patience from Allah, He bestows him the reward given to the thankful ones.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 4, p. 16

285- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

اَلكادّ عَلى عِيالِه كَالمُجاهِدِ في سَبِيلِ اللهِ

الكافي/5/88 & من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/168

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said: “He who tolerates the task of earning money for (the comfort of) his wife, is like the one who fights in the way of Allah.

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 168

Al-Kafi, vol. 5, p. 88

286- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

كَفى بِالمَرءِ إِثْمًا أَنْ يُضَيِّـعَ مَنْ يَعُولُ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/168

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“This (sin) is enough for a man that he leaves those dependant on him for sustenance without regard.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 168

287- قالَ الإمامُ الصّادِقُ عليه السلام :

مِن سَعادَة الْمَرْءِ أَنْ يَكُونَ القَيِّمَ عَلى عِيالِهِ

من لا يحضره الفقيه/3/168

Imam Sadiq [a.s.] said:“Happy is a man who is the administrator of his wife and children himself.”

Man La Yahduruhul Faqih, vol. 3, p. 168