Alhassanain(p) Network for Heritage and Islamic Thought

Raising Children

This book is corrected and edited by Al-Hassanain (p) Institue for Islamic Heritage and Thought

• Chapter 1: Training of children
• Various definitions of training
• Conclusions from the above definitions
• Parents as Trainers
• Aspects of Training
• Guidance
• Self-Control
• Change
• Exploiting Potential
• Lack of Training
• Wise Words
• Chapter 2: The Role of the Mother
• Islam’s respect for the Mother
• Emphasis on choosing a good wife
• Respect in this world
• Respect in the Hereafter
• Holy Qur’an on the Mother
• Qualities of a Mother
• 1. A deep love for her children
• 2. Sacrifice and dedication
• 3. Protection and security
• The role of the Mother
• A window of the child to the world
• Model for the child
• Excerpts from Meeting the Pious, Ash-Sharif ar-Radi
• Strengths of a Mother
• Awareness of responsibility
• Setting clear goals
• Encourage children according to their potential
• Wise Words
• Chapter 3: Religious Training of children
• Beliefs
• In God
• In the Hereafter
• In the Prophets and Imams
• Rituals
• Morals
• Methods of Religious Training
• Be a model to your children
• Relate stories
• Questions and Answers
• Some Don’ts in Religious Training
• Wise Words
• Chapter 4: A Child’s need for Love
• Effects of Love
• Letting the child know he is loved
• The love of a mother
• Unconditional Love
• Excessive Love
• Wise Words
• Chapter 5: Self-esteem and Children
• Advantages of a healthy self-esteem
• When self-esteem is lacking
• How to foster self-esteem in a child
• Show respect to the child
• Teach the child to think highly of himself
• Make him familiar with stories of great people
• Listen to the child’s wishes
• Practical Do’s & Don’ts for fostering self-esteem
• Wise Words
• Chapter 6: Discipline and Control
• Advantages of Discipline
• Safety from physical and moral danger
• Avoids wrong influences
• A chance to be successful
• Feels loved and secured
• What to control?
• Going out
• Friends
• Language
• Time
• Behavior
• Some important points
• Wise Words
• Chapter 7: Children and Play
• Benefits of Play
• Physical benefits
• Mental Benefits
• Emotional benefits
• Social benefits
• Types of play
• Parents and Play
• Companions in play
• Some important points
• Words of Wisdom
• Chapter 8: Outside Influences
• Television
• Books
• Friends
• Wise Words
• Chapter 9: Sibling Rivalry
• Causes of Jealousy
• Position in danger
• Comparing
• Giving more attention to one child
• Finding faults in the presence of other siblings
• Gender differences
• Hints for reducing Sibling Rivalry
• Wise Words
• Chapter 10: Mistakes Parents often make
• 1. Making children dependent
• 2. Quarreling in front of the children
• 3. Expecting too much of children
• 4. Negativity
• 5. Being two-faced
• 6. Humiliating a child in front of others
• Chapter 11: Du`a for Virtuous Children