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Youth and Spouse Selection
This book is corrected and edited by Al-Hassanain (p) Institue for Islamic Heritage and Thought
Author:
Ali Akbar Mazaheri
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Preface by the Translator
Foreword by His Eminence Professor Ja’far Subhani
Note
Introduction by ‘Ali Akbar Mazaheri
Reminding of A Few Points
Notes
Chapter One: Excellence of Marriage
Man and Woman: Enhancements of Each Other
Spouse: A Big Blessing From Allah
Marriage Philosophy
“Spouse”: The Sign of Allah’s Wisdom and Source of Man’s Comfort
Marriage: The Improver of the Value of Man’s Practices
The Loveliest Centre to Allah
The Medal of Honour
Reminder
Notes
Chapter Two: When Must We Marry?
The Puberty Age
Marriage: a medium of reaching Allah
The time of sexual and mental maturity
The View of an Expert
Discussion with a Friend in this Connection
It Is Wrong To Dash into a Rock
Notes
Chapter Three: The Merits of Timely a Marriage and Demerits of its Delay
1- Securing and Strengthening True Faith and Spiritualism
A Sad Specimen
An Auspicious and Blessed Specimen
2- Benefiting and Enjoying a Sweet and Cheerful Youth
A Sorrowful Specimen
3- Remaining Pure From Corruption and Sexual Deviations
4- Safety from Nervous and Spiritual Diseases
Attention
Note
Chapter Four: Difficulties and Hurdles of Marriage
First Difficulty: Economic and Monetary Difficulty
1. Allah's Supports
The Good News Given By The Leaders of Islam
A Beautiful Example
2. New Horizons
3. Job Facilities and Allowances
4. Attaining Status and More Reverence
5. Special Marriage Loans
6. Decreasing the Ceremonies and Additional Expenses
A Beautiful Specimen of Simple Living
Second Difficulty: Continuation of Education
The Real Problem
Contemplating This Difficulty
Solutions to This Problem
2- The Religious and Lawful Engagement
3- Parents Help To the Son and the Daughter
4- Birth Control
5-Contentment
6- Cooperation
A Word with Parents in this Regard
Third Difficulty: Difficulty in Spouse Selection
The Solution
Fourth Difficulty: Hurdles and Hindrances of the Elders and Friends
A Gloomy and Sad Example for Your Attention
A Curious and Strange Example
An Agonistic Letter
Answer
Solutions
1. Direct Negotiations With The Hurdle-Creators And Fault -Finders
2- Appointing A Mediator
A Specimen for Your Attention
Look at another Example
Another Interesting Example
Reminder
Fifth Difficulty: Military Service
Solutions: Long Term Solution
Short Term Solution
1- Religious and Legal Engagement
2- Staying in the House of One's In-laws
3- Parents Help
Sixth Difficulty: Presence of Older Brothers and Sisters
Solution to This Problem
Seventh Difficulty: Dwelling
Solution
Long Term
Short Term Solutions
1- Temporarily Staying At the Parents' Home
2- Renting a House
Attention
Eight Difficulty: Inability of the Youth to Manage and Run Their Life
Ninth Difficulty: Natural Difficulties
Answer
The Philosophy of These Difficulties and Hardships
Note
A Word With The Elders
“The person who provides a wife for a bachelor, Allah will look at him on the justice day
A Social Disease
Notes
Chapter Five: Criteria of Spouse Selection
Subtlety in Selection, Smoothness In Marriage
Criteria of Spouse Selection
Question And Observation
Answer
The Fruit of Religiousness
(c) Nobility
Answer
Status of Morality in Spouse Selection
Specimens of Decent and Indecent Behaviour
1- Using Decent and Indecent Language
2- Magnanimity and Jealousy
3- Sweet-Naturedness and ill-naturedness
4- Accepting The Truth And Stubbornness
5- Wise Humility And Stupid Pride And Arrogance
6- Truthfulness And Lying
7- Grace And Deliberateness And Ungraciousness And Debauchery
8- Forbearance And Impatience And Incapaciousness
9- Favourable Opinion And Mistrust
10- Being Warm And Affectionate And Being Apathetic
11- Forgiveness And Hostility
12- Respect And Disrespect
13- Boldness And Fear
14- Politeness And Rough Attitude
15- Faithfulness And Disloyalty
16- Generosity And Parsimony
17- Contentment And Greed
Answer To A Question
Question and Answer
Another Question
Answer
An Unpleasant Specimen
A More Unpleasant Specimen
Fifth: Physical and Mental Health
Consider This Miserable Specimen
Question and Answer
Sixth: Beauty
Note
Seventh: Knowledge and Education
Attention
A Lesson-Giving Example
Salient Points of Incoordination of Ismail and Safoora
5- A moral difference
Refuting a Doubt
Conditions of Compatibility
1-Religious Compatibility
Question and Answer
2- Cultural and Mental Compatibility
3- Moral Compatibility
Attend To This Specimen
4- Educational Compatibility
5- Physical Compatibility
Attention
6- Equality of Beauty
7- Equality in Age
8- Economical Equality
9- Family Equality
10- Political Consistency
11- Social Consistency
A Considerable Specimen
12- Psychological Consistency
1. Unpredictable Variations
Predictable Changes
Discussing the Future Aims and Probable Changes Before Marriage
Question and Answer
Answer
Question and Answer
Answer
Avoiding Negligence
Love, The Pivot of Life
Kinds of Love
1- Loves of Lust and Passion
2- Lofty Love
Question And Answer
Lasting Love
A Magnanimous and Beautiful Specimen
Mutual Love
A Net of Deception
Second Tragic Letter
Important Question and Answer
An Artificial Life is Unendurable
Notes
Chapter Six: Selection
Time to Act
Selection
Perfect Recognition
Ways Of Spouse Selection
First Way: Seeking Advice
A Sage Guide
The Qualities of an Adviser
1- Religiousness
2- Wits And Intelligence
5- Having Goodwill
6- Trustworthy
An Important Reminder
Second Way: Mediator and Introducer
Kinds of Mediators
1- An Aware Well-Wisher
2- An Unaware Well-Wisher
A Sad specimen
An Important Warning to The Youth
Third Way: Investigation
Acceptance or Rejection Needs Logic
The ways of investigation and how to cross them
1- Consideration of the Conditions and Qualities of the Relatives of the Person
2-Investigating Through His Relatives
Attention
A Safe And Sure Way
3- Through His/Her Close Friends
4-Through Teachers, Administrators and Managers
5- Investigation Through His/Her Enemies
Fourth Way: Sending A Messenger
The Peculiarities of a Messenger
1- Mindful and clever
2- Well-wishing
3- Trustworthy
4- Possessing correct standards and experience
Attention
Fifth Way: Writing a Letter
Attention
Sixth Way: Photograph
Seventh Way: Direct Talk
The Method of This Meeting
1- Describing the Course of Future Life
2- Discussing the Future Aims
Attention
Do Not Accept Any Undue Conditions And Demands
Eighth Way: Seeing Each Other
Considering This Topic In The Light of Traditions
Caution
Protecting The Girl's Dignity
Kinds of Omen
The Correct Use of Omen
A Sorrowful Specimen of Misunderstanding the Omen
Another Specimen
Crossing the Slippery Road! Complete Caution at Every Step
Self -Sacrificial Marriage
Definition Of This Form Of Marriages
The Worth And Excellence Of This Kind Of Marriage
Self-Sacrificial Marriage Is Not A General Prescription
Result
Remorse Before Marriage
The Cause Of This Remorse
Answer
A Considerable And Lesson -Taking Specimen
Family Marriages
Children's Engagement
Notes
Chapter Seven: Engagement Period
The Need of an Engagement Period
The Benefits of the Engagement Period and the Duties of the Girl and the Boy During It
1- The Enhancement of Mutual Recognition and Understanding
2- Improvement and Training
3-Enhancement of Love
4- Development of Hope Regarding One's Future Life
5- Laying the Foundation Of Independence In Future Life
6- Valuing Each Other's Sentiments and Feelings
7- Gift Presenting
8- Writing Love Letters
9- Sincere Visits
10- Short Journeys
11- Participating in Spiritual Aggregations
12- Gaining Knowledge and Arts Regarding Organising One's life, caring for a spouse and the study of books in this respect
A Worthy Essay in This Connection
The Value of the Engagement Period
Reflection of the difficulty of sexual deprivations
The Length of the Engagement Period
The Mishaps And Catastrophes During The Engagement Period
1- The Heart's Excuses
Attention
A Noteworthy Specimen
Attention
2- Undue Expectation
Attention: One Must Certainly Have A Celebration
3- Interference And Temptations Of The Ignorant And The Self-Interested
4- Not Observing The Parents' Conditions
5- Excessive visits
Refreshing The Unpleasant Memories Of The Past
7- Talk About Former Lovers
8- Undue Ardour Of The Girl's Parents
Notes
Leave the Real Marriage for the Marriage Night
Youth and Spouse Selection
Author:
Ali Akbar Mazaheri
Publisher:
www.alhassanain.org/english
Book library
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This book is corrected and edited by Al-Hassanain (p) Institue for Islamic Heritage and Thought