Alhassanain(p) Network for Heritage and Islamic Thought

Children in the Quran and Sunnah

This book is corrected and edited by Al-Hassanain (p) Institue for Islamic Heritage and Thought

• Introduction
• Note
• Section 1: The Foundations of Upbringing a Child
• Introduction
• 1- Organising a Meritorious Family
• Population Control from the Viewpoint of Islam
• 2- The Role of Heredity
• 3- The Role of the Parents’ Food
• 4- The role of the Method of Copulation
• Note
• Chapter 1: Family
• 1.1: The Forming of a Family
• 1.2: Seeking to have a Child
• 1.3: The Virtue of a Righteous Child
• 1.4: The Believers’ Offspring will be with them in Heaven
• 1.5: The Virtue of Tolerating the Troubles of a Child
• 1.6: Abundant Children
• 1.7: The Virtue of Girls
• 1.8: The Reward of Upbringing Girls
• 1. 9: Taking Care of Daughters
• 1.10: The Censure of Disliking Girls
• 1.11: The Bane of Having a Bad Child
• 1.12: Beseeching Allah for a Righteous Family
• Notes
• Chapter 2: Heredity
• 2.1: Blood is Contagious
• 2.2: The Role of Heredity in the Creation of a Child
• 2.3: The Role of Heredity in the Behaviour of a Child
• 2.4: The Role of Marrying Relatives
• Notes
• Chapter 3: The Food of the Parents
• 3.1: The Role of Unlawful Food in a Newborn
• 3.2: The Role of the Father’s Food in his Child
• 3.3: The Role of a Pregnant Woman’s Food on the Foetus
• 3.4: The Role of a Mother’s Food on the Newborn
• Notes
• Chapter 4: The Forming of the Life-germ
• 4.1: The Effects of being Born Pure
• 4.2: The Effects of Impure Birth
• 4.3: The Harm of Copulating with a Woman during her Menses
• 4.4: The Blessings of Supplicating During Intercourse
• 4.5: The Role of the Conditions on the Formation of the Life-germ
• Notes
• Section 2: The Rights of Children
• Introduction
• 1- Honouring the Birth
• 2- Bathing the Newborn
• 3- Reciting Adhan and Iqamah in the Newborn’s ears
• 4- Feeding the Newborn for the First Time
• 5- Choosing a Good Name
• 6- Shaving the Newborn’s Head
• 7- To Offer a Sacrifice for the Newborn
• 8- Circumcision of the Baby
• Notes
• Chapter 1: The Rights of a Newborn
• 1.1: Honouring the Birth
• 1.2: Washing the Newborn
• 1.3: Reciting Adhan and Iqamah in the Newborn’s ears
• 1.4: The First Feeding
• 1.5: Naming
• A- Choosing a Good Name
• B- Choosing a Name before the Birth
• C- The Ahlul Bayt’s Tradition in Naming
• D- The Best of Names and the Rights of Some of Them
• E- Inappropriate Names
• F- The reason for the Reproaching of Certain Names
• 1.6: Shaving the Head
• 1.7: Giving an Offering for a Child
• 1.8: Circumcision
• Notes
• Chapter 2: The Rights of a Suckling Infant
• 1- Suitable Nutrition
• 2- Respecting the Feelings
• 2.1: Being Breastfed from the Mother’s Milk, if Possible
• A) The virtue of breastfeeding the infant
• B) The Blessing of the Mother’s Milk
• C) The Duration of Nursing
• 2.2: Choosing a Righteous Wet-nurse to Breastfeed
• 2.3: Those Who Should not Be Asked for Suckling
• 2.4: Feeding the Child Beneficial Foods
• 2.5: Respecting the Infant’s Feelings
• Notes
• Chapter 3: Education
• 3.1: The Value of Seeking Knowledge at a Young Age
• 3.2: The Value of Upbringing
• 3.3: The Responsibility of Education and Upbringing
• 3.4: The Most Important Obligatory Thing to Teach
• A- Islamic beliefs, monotheism in particular
• B- Love of the Prophet and his Household
• C- Obligatory acts, especially prayer and fasting
• D- The Qur’an
• E- Religious Sciences
• F- Writing
• G- Hygiene
• H- Moral Wisdoms
• I - Useful Poems
• The Function of Poetry in a Child’s Education and Upbringing
• J- Swimming and Archery
• 3.5: The Age of Upbringing and Disciplining a Child
• 3.6: The Method of Islamic Upbringing
• A- Honouring, Gentleness, Sympathy and Love
• B- Strictness and Uncompromising
• C- Practical Disciplining
• An Analysis on the Methods of Upbringing Children
• 1- The upbringing method based on strictness
• 2- The upbringing method based on kindness and lack of strictness
• 3- The upbringing method based on lack of kindness and lack of strictness
• 4- The upbringing method based on affection and decisiveness
• 5- The upbringing method based on love, strictness and dignity
• 3.7: The Banes of Upbringing
• A) Excessiveness in love
• B) Excessiveness in reprimanding
• C) Disciplining at a time of anger
• D) Harshness
• 3.8: Sex Education
• A) Separating beds
• B) Avoidance of looking at the private parts of the child and the child looking at those of others
• C) The permissible limit of kissing a boy and a girl
• D) Asking Permission for Entering the Parents’ Room
• F) The Danger of a Child Seeing his Parents Copulate
• Some Words about Sex Education
• Necessary Planning for Sexual Chastity
• A- Covering the private parts
• B- The reproach of a child being kissed by a non-mahram
• C- Reproaching the playing with a child’s private parts
• D- Separation of beds
• E- Hiding any sexual contact of the parents from the children
• Notes
• Chapter 4: The Ethics of Upbringing
• 4.1: Encouragement of the Loving of Children and Having Sympathy to Them
• 4.2: The Prophet’s Conduct in Kindness to Children and Dignifying Them
• 4.3: Greeting Children
• 4.4: Reproaching the Disliking of Children
• 4.5: The Boundaries of Love to Children
• 4.6: Justice Between Children
• Being Just Between Children
• 4.7: Fulfilling a Promise
• Fulfilling Promises and its Function in the Upbringing of Children
• 4.8: Bringing Happiness
• Notes
• Chapter 5: Ornamentation and Playing
• 5.1: Ornamenting Children
• 5.2: Praising the Playfulness of Children
• 5.3: Allowing a Child to Play
• 5.4: Acting in a Childish Manner for Children And Playing with Them
• 5.5: The Children’s Entertainment Place
• The Function of Playing in the Growth of a Child
• The Importance of Playing from a Psychological Viewpoint
• 1- The Physical Importance
• 2- The Psychological Importance
• 3-The Upbringing Importance
• 4-The Social Importance
• 5-The Educational Importance
• 6-The Moral Importance
• A Psychological Analysis of Playing
• A- The Theory of Extra Power
• B- The Theory of Removing Tension
• C- The Theory of Evolving Renewal
• D- The Attitude of Pre-exercise
• The Age of Playing
• The Parents Playing with the Child
• Notes
• Chapter 6: Supplication
• 6.1: Encouraging Supplication for Children
• 6.2: Reproaching of Supplicating Against the Children
• 6.3: The Supplication of Imam al-Sajjad (a.s.) for his Children
• Notes
• Section 3: The Child’s Duties
• Chapter 1: The Individual Duties of a Child
• 1.1: Observing Discipline in the Affairs
• 1.2: Cleanliness
• 1.3: Washing hands before and after Food
• 1.4: Brushing the Teeth
• 1.5: Washing Hands before Sleeping
• 1.6: Cutting Nails
• Notes
• Chapter 2: The Children’s Duties towards their Parents
• 2.1: The Importance of the Rights of Parents
• 2.2: The Rights of Parents
• A) Doing Good
• B) Standing up to Show Reverence
• C) Submissiveness at the Time of Anger
• D) Avoiding Disobedience
• 2.3: General Rights of Parents
• 2.4: The Benefits of Doing Good to Parents
• Notes
• Chapter 3: The Child’s Duties Towards His Teacher
• 3.1: Obedience
• 3.2: Honouring
• 3.3: Lowering the Voice
• 3.4: Avoidance of Belittling
• Notes
• Chapter 4: The Child’s Duties Towards Elders and Friends
• 4.1: Initiating with Greeting
• 4.2:Observing Rights
• An explanation about a child greeting elders
• 4.3: Taking the Elders as Examples
• 4.4: Fulfilling Needs
• 4.5: Honouring
• 4.6: Assisting
• 4.7: Sharing
• 4.8:Maintaining Friendship
• 4.9: Good Interaction
• 4.10: Good Remembrance
• 4.11: Advice and Goodwill
• 4.12: Presenting the Defect as a Gift
• 4.13: Ignoring Faults
• 4.14: Avoidance of Scorning
• 4.15: Avoiding Hurting Others
• Notes