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Alhassanain (p) Network for Islamic Heritage and Thought

Sexual Problems of Youths

Author(s):Ayatullah Naser Makarem Shirazi

www.alhassanain.org/english

Table of Contents

Dedication 4

Preface 5

For awakening the families 5

What we can do? 5

A problem called marriage 6

Barriers to spouse selection 6

Every youth faces these barriers 6

Extended duration of education, the first great barrier to marriage of the youth 7

Decrease in matrimony, A great social tragedy 8

Possibility of illegal relations is an important factor for decrease in marriage 10

Victims of these shameful relations 11

Shackles for the youth 12

Seven adventures of matrimony 13

Strict Parents 16

Who should select: The youth or parents? 17

Fiery Loves 19

A danger in the youth’s life 19

Under the romantic covering of “love” 20

Pitfalls of love 21

First pitfall 21

“Love and fancy” 24

Love and dream! 24

Love and expectation 25

Love and revenge 25

Mercantile marriages 25

Whimsical marriages 27

Marriage with football! 27

Sexual perversions 29

The youth and sexual perversions 29

First letter 29

Another letter 30

Third letter 30

The fatal consequences of perversions 31

Harms of masturbation 32

Masturbation is uncontrollable 33

The Important Issue lies here! 34

Ways and instructions for prevention 35

Ten instructions 37

Avoiding all artificial stimulations 37

Preparing a full time program 38

Focusing on sports 38

One habit shall be replaced by another 39

Absolute avoidance of loneliness 39

Marry at the first opportunity 40

Suggestion and strengthening of willpower 40

Absolute abstinence 40

General nourishment and diet 40

Seeking help from the power of faith and religious beliefs 41

Feedback from Readers 42

Dedication

All praise belongs to the Lord Who created us and commissioned His noble messengers to guide us to felicity in this world and the next. I dedicate this book to my daughter,Shirin and my son,Shahab , and invoke Allah, the Almighty to lead and keep all youths, including my children, on the straight path of truth and protect them from Satan and satanic temptations throughout their lives.

I present the reward of my translation to the soul of my late aunt, and beseech God to give me more success in this way.

I appreciate the valuable assistance of Mr.Sayed Athar who reviewed and edited this book.

On Him we trust, and He is Sufficient for us. He is the Best Supporter.

Monir Shafiei

24.1.2007

Tehran, Iran

monirshafiei@yahoo.com

Preface

For awakening the families

The parents are unconcerned and the youths are indifferent and uncaring towards the events concerned with their destiny!

It seems that all prefer to forget the problems to ignore their fear, and as called by diplomats, they follow the policy of “patience and wait”.

Then, thousands of guiltless youths become victims of such negligence, heedlessness and ignorance, and the society is corrupted.

It is strange that thousands of societies, seminars, congresses, etc. are held every year throughout the world for investigation and review of underwater mines, various marine creatures, direction of winds and typhoons, pests of cottonboll and oat, extinction of chamois, decrease in the number of penguins, internal structure of firefly and so on, and scientists from around the world meet together to discuss about them.

On the other hand, little (if any) attention is paid to issues related to youths, who are the most active and precious human treasures of societies.

What we can do?

Our present world is not ruled by intellect and wisdom. Realities are not taken into consideration. The course of events and issues are mostlydetermined by a series of personal, regional, emotional, recreational motives or affairs dealing mostly with the appearance of the society.

Otherwise, such a significant issue shouldn’t have been forgotten and ignored to such an extent. Negligence of thinkers and scientists should not cause the youths and parents to forget their critical responsibility.

None of the problems the youths face today is as important as the sexual problem. Regretfully, we have to admit that this problem is becoming more complicated and serious due to developing automation in life, long duration of education and specialty courses, availability of luxury to all families, and lack of mutual confidence between girls and boys.

We have discussed these problems explicitly and clearly in this book and also proposed some solutions. Although some believe that we face a deadlock in this regard, we have proved the contrary. That is, should the youths and parents decide to solve this problem, effective solutions would indeed be available?

Moreover, we have discussed about “sexual perversion”, and practical way of its treatment and prevention. Studying it will certainly provide useful information for all youths to get salvation from this problem. These discussions were already published in “Nasl -e-Javan ” magazine but after receiving repeated requests and numerous letters from the magazine office, it was published after revision and completion in book form which is available to you now.

We pray God the Almighty to give success to all the youths to solve their problems in this critical issue of life by following the instructions in this book. This is our utmost desire.

Qom -Nasir Makarim Shirazi

August 1971